Hello fello bloggers!! Yes I have been gone for a minute but I am back again as always. A lot of things have taken place in the last two or three months but I can say most have been positive changes which going on 27 in two weeks I can appreciate the good things.
Recently I got into a conversation with a friend about my stance to become celibate until marriage. Its not something that I really felt comfortable with speaking on at first but I realized the things that have happened in my life because of this has had a major impact. Since the decision I have come closer to my faith. Its been a challenging change to say the least. Not so much that I miss chexing but more about what it represents.
For a while I had been struggling with surrendering myself to the Lord. I didn’t feel like (at first) that just because I gave up chex that my whole world would turn upside town. I thought I would basically say “God I did this for you, now its your turn to bless me with a good man” Its only until resently I realized what “Dying to self” actually meant. When I made my decision to be celibate I thought I had already died lol. Really I hadn’t given myself to God because I was still “Waiting” to be blessed.
Over the last few weeks I have been learning about giving myself “Totally” to God and at first I was scared. The thought of having to basically stop hoping, wishing, praying that God would just magically send me someone. I kept hearing single people should serve God. What does that mean exactly, because I am single I have to be this way for life? when is ok to have a man?? All these thoughts raced through my head and I NEVER wanted to accept that this could be my life FOREVER. I can’t say I am 100% over the “Idea” of love and marriage. But I have slowly come to realize that God isn’t my genie in a bottle. Even though he puts “Conditions” on us doesn’t mean we can treat him in the same manor simply because we are fickle people and change like the wind. I know as much as I try to keep my promise I can sometimes fall short. God NEVER fails…..
I want to exemplify what it means to “die to self” giving myself totally to God without any worries of my future. I don’t want to worry if I get married. If I don’t get married I still will remain celibate because this is what is required of me. I still pray God blesses me but I no longer dwell or let my life revolve around “marriage”.
Have you ever thought of putting “conditions” on God tit for tat?? Have you ever thought of dying to yourself. Do you think you could do that if God never gave you the desire of your heart?
Ok I love the title…Jesus in a bottle…
“I want to exemplify what it means to “die to self” giving myself totally to God without any worries of my future. I don’t want to worry if I get married”
I think this means that you have to have complete faith..in my opinion nothing happens or correctly when you try to control the outcome…sometimes you do just have to “let go”. And TRUST that everything happens in its perfect and divine time.
comeback, I agree to a certain extent. I mean we PLAN for college we PLAN to save for a house car, we PLAN to get a job but when it comes to dating we leave it up in Gods hands. God give us CHOICE so the only thing I ask of him is for wisdom to make the right choice. I still believe I should be actively dating I just won’t dwell on what doesn’t happen and base what I do off of it. I will just continue to live life and have a ball.
some women put life on hold and think marriage or “life” begins when you get a man or get married and that is the wrong attitude to have.
I have never heard dying to self…. but I would think it would mean that your “SELF” is dead…. your life should be for God…
I think it’s okay to still have desires…. I cannot think of the bible verse, I’m trying to find it… but it’s about God wanting us to be happy and to give us what we desire in our hearts.
I think a time ago, I put conditions on tithing… like I’mma give God his money and then he’ll make sure all my bills are paid. But I’ve realized that is not what that’s about… you should give God his tenth to show him that you KNOW he’s in control.. there’s no way we can pay HIM off.
“I mean we PLAN for college we PLAN to save for a house car, we PLAN to get a job but when it comes to dating we leave it up in Gods hands.”
I think you still need to know who you are and what you want. I’m not JUST saying throwing your hands in the air and not even knowing who you’d like to attract into your life as a partner. Im not even saying not dating.
But I am saying relaxing all that..plan plan plan stuff. The best jobs and men i ever had were the one’s i wasn’t sitting somewhere planning for..most of them came when I stopped “looking”
“you should give God his tenth to show him that you KNOW he’s in control.. there’s no way we can pay HIM off”
you hit the nail right on the head.
here is what I found
Matthew 16:24-25 “Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.”
I think its about like you said, living for God and Its also about being unselfish as in when you die you no longer live in the flesh you live through the holy spirit. I think if we actually did that things would turn out a lot diff. I’d like to do better in being unselfish.
comeback I agree you should stop “looking” but as I live my life as I know how too, things usually fall into place. So I encourage LIVING period networking, doing things you love ect….. sometimes it gets a little frustrating for me because my life kinda feels put on hold, not because of a man but because of my debt lol.
lemmie go get a job lol.
thanks for commenting yall!! this is good!
“lemmie go get a job lol. ”
You’re not working? That Dayum Dave!!!!!!!!!
lol ANOTHER job!!
when I first started the dave program i was working my tail of for a year!
now i don’t want to do ANYTHING extra.
Im mad late to the party but I love to comment on faith related posts(there aren’t a lot of them out there).
Dying to self, becoming a murderer and killing the flesh, becoming not of this world…. Those are common phrases in the holy hip hop world(get up on it). Thats something ive been working on for about two years now, worrying less about my desires and focusing more on living for him and showing others about him.
On a side note, did you all know that the 10% rule is sort of a myth, lol. That was more of an old testament law, but now the rule is to give what your heart tells you too. Give, but dont go broke like my boy trying to maintain the 10% standard when it aint there! (see 1Cor 9:7)
When you put conditions on God that’s pure ego and most certainly ego gets in the way of having unwavering faith in your higher power.
For the presence of God to work its magic we must work tirelessly to shed our overdeveloped ego…
Hell. I know I do….
Great post…and keep writing…its so cathartic.
GT
What you said is so true get togetha, I have been dealing with my ego a bunch and its driving me nuts lol. Sometimes I just want to give n and say to heck with it, but i know thats not how it works.
I hate set backs and I know If i decided to do my own thing I would truly be set back. I think thats a problem many of us have, not wanting to realize consqences of doing our own thing and not thinking it really will affect us.
thanks for stopping by please come back ya hear!!
“Give, but dont go broke like my boy trying to maintain the 10% standard when it aint there! (see 1Cor 9:7)”
Yes God would rather us take care of our family keeping lights on and a roof vs trying to maintain a standard. he would consider that foolish. But he does want us to be able to trust that he will provide even when we don’t have much to give.
In sunday school we talked about how we shouldn’t put “Things” Before God the minute we start doing that is the minute we need to rethink whats important.