I know this topic comes up again and again, but I have to speak on it once more because 1. It never gets old and 2. It happened to me.
Recently I was reconnected with a blast from the past (worksite jada). He reached out to me via email after a year of not speaking due to me ending it. Obviously it was for good reason but for some reason I thought things might be different. For a while (read a week) things actually were different, we talked every day via email, text and hours on the phone. It was pretty cool. Then one day I got an email “hey yea member that girl I told you about?” Yea well we went on a date……..
This for me is where it pretty much ended. Suddenly the phone calls stop, texting stops, emails are there but fading into black. I saw all these signs smacking me in the face saying its time for me to act like a banana and split but something in me needed conformation.
So Mik gets bold and brave enough to ask the question “Dude what happen?”
Dude: I been in church all week and got super busy….
Dude: I am over in my text messages……(we have mobile to mobile)
Dude: I figured you might be sleep and I knew you was going out of town.
Dude: Work? Oh yea I was busy there too!!!
Dude: Its really not like that……
Seriously? You think that for a second I am buying any of these excuses? I am not the brightest crayon in the box but I do know when I am being played. So he insisted once again that it wasn’t like that and apologized again. I am a big creature of habit and if you start out one way and suddenly things are MUCH different im going to side eye you.
Thankfully I saw the sign and It opened up my eyes I saw the sign……. (song break) and I wont continue to go down this path with this dude.
Have you ever had clear signs that he wasn’t that into you and you ignored them and kept forcing something that would probably never be right?
I did that A LOT. It actually wasn’t until I read the book, that I was okay to admit that he just may not be feeling me like that.
Here’s to clarity! Cheers!
Sometimes things are so clear, that we make it more complicated than it has to be. I’ve ignored the signs before and ended up regretting it. I couldn’t blame anyone but myself because signs do show up before we get emotionally invested.