So everybody by now is aware that I have been working through getting financially stable. I have managed to save (by months end) a total of $4,500. I have been working two jobs and saving the cash from my rental property for the past 3-4 months (the power of focus hard at work). I have had a few set backs in having to dish out large lump sums for emergencies, but over all I am doing extremely well. It has been worth the sacrifice 100% because now I actually have something to show for my hard work. Anyways this post isn’t about my financial bank account it’s about my EMOTIONAL bank account, so let’s talk about it.
Most of us, when we get into relationships with the opposite sex, go into it with high hopes that we will be over all in a “Winning” situation. Now there will always be a time where we feel like we are being “short changed”, but for the most part we should always have 50-50 love. The concept of the emotional bank account isn’t new and we all know that. All I am doing is calling it in “simp”ler terms “Happy Cash”.
Who gets an account?
Everyone gets an account, “Cut buddies”, “friends with benefits” boy friends and girlfriends”. The E.H.C.A should always have money in it and should never under any circumstance have a negative balance. People with no regular cash flow eventually end up using “happy pills” and we know what those do lol.
How the account works
Let’s start with the basics. Happy cash is the emotional money your significant other deposits, (assuming you have one) into your account on a regular that makes you feel worth being together. You put “money” per say, in the account by doing things you know will over all contribute to the well being of your mate and over all happiness. These things could be taking out the trash, cooking a nice dinner, voluntary back rubs, xbox time without interruption, getting that “job while driving” without asking, and taking rides on your “toys aka bikes” without being called asking where the hell are you. All these things would contribute to me loving my boo more and more every day. The trick to this account is for both people to make sure both people are always being fulfilled in the relationship.
Think of it like your every day job. Would you go to work 40 hours a week and enjoy being paid for 20 hours month after month?? Nah either you quit or tell them to pay up!!! The E.H.C.A account works the same way. If there is anytime you ever feel your not getting what you deserve you should address the issue or leave.
Deposits
How your significant other makes deposits greatly affects this account. If for one month (As example) he asked you to give him head for 10 days straight (unless you’re a nasty freak and you like doing that) your going to feel like your man is depleting your account and that’s ok as long as he has made his normal deposits. But if in fact he is demanding head, but didn’t take out the trash like you asked, didn’t make you feel soft n pink for 3 days straight, or kept playing xbox when you needed “assistance”, your account will become negative and you won’t have any cash to give when he goes to use his “Debit card”. Get it?? Same goes for the men, you all should get your deposits on time just like a woman should. I personally always want to feel needed, loved, and appreciated and if I love my man or like his sex even I should understand that my “great blow job” Is not the only thing that keeps him loving me.
In conclusion, we all need to feel like our accounts aren’t always in a deficit like the United States of America. There will be times with this account that you have to make your own deposit, (being single) that means take time for yourself and do things that contribute to your well being. If you need a day at the spa then go, if you want to “G.I.U” (Geek-it-up) for hours on end do it, or if you want to sit in front of the tv watching reruns of sex in the city, DO IT!! All the deposits you make on yourself well eventually allow to you pay out dividends on the new person you meet. If your account balance is already low (like mine) you can’t be handing out lines of credit like a McDonald’s Monopoly game piece, CASH ONLY. So folk get out there and open up your E.H.C.A’s today!! Or if you want you can simply at the bottom of this page leave a list of the things that creates deposits FOR YOU. I will leave mine here. Thanks folks!!
My account balance $200 (its low but I haven’t been making deposits lately)
Deposits I like to make or like having made….
Shopping for new shoes $100
Ice cream at Baskin Robins $30
A phone call in the middle of the day from a male friend to say hi $900
Listening to music all day at work $300
Blogging $100
Having a guy cook for me $1,000
Eating at my favorite spot $1,500
Getting my nails n hair done $ 800
Talking on the phone hours on end with my best friend $5,000 (she keeps me sane)
And the list goes on, NOTE: I’m single so I pretty much make MOST of the deposits myself. People in relationships may have different kinds of deposits but the idea is the same.
why was the phone call $900? And now I must shamelessly plug my website where I don’t keep an emotional bank account bc, well that’s one more thing to cloud my brain these days. but check out milfalert.wordpress.com when you have a moment.
lol I like phone calls in the middle of the day at work, it makes me feel soft n pink!!
Its cool you can leave plugs here everybody is welcome!! I am gonna go check your site now.
Mikki
Good analogy. You should never withdraw more than you have in your account or you will be emotionally bankrupt. Happens too often.
hey shelia girl!! U are so right nobody wants to be bankrupt that is so not cool
also my book just came in today!! I will go pick it up tomorrow yippy! actually if i get my lazy arse up today I can pick it up lol.
ohie vay
I dunno what to say.
at least its rational thought…. in a way…
I just myself am shocked that its in print, but dosent surprise me.
Hasani what are you talking about?
Hope you like the book 🙂
Hasani since SBM is now moderating all comments to your LIVE links. Is this you? And more importantly if it is WHY?
http://www.myspace.com/hasanipettiford
http://www.hasanipettiford.com/ is the other.
omg!!! this is nuts
Oh yeah but I’m “getting on him”. I would have respected him more for what he had to say if he was coming from a married man/best selling author/ father perspective. But now…I don’t want to hear nothing he has to say.
The name change was obvioius. I think he got caught up the more and more he was responding.
Wow comeback im out done this is crazy!! seriously on way to many levels
Wow ladies. If this is true I’m shocked. I haven’t checked out the links yet.
comeback and shelia I found what SBM claims is a credible source for Hasani
Personally I can’t decided which one I would rather believe. so click on the link and tell me what yall think. on his profile he says he is college educated corp guy, but you make 26k?? all your ex’s like you yet you have been on 40 dates and cant find a woman plus I thought you had 1 girlfriend for 10 years so that would be ex not ex’s and she dumped you so she didn’t like you to much now???? im just saying I dunno who is lying but somebody is……
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=306621110
How did you find this? It maybe him!!!
used his email addy and plugged it into myspace.
I can’t believe they are one in the same he is lying about how much money he makes, plus this myspace dude seems rather cool. hasani we know is uncool and bitter and nuts.
I KNOW the myspace Hasani is kinda cute. I know why can’t we blog with the emotionally stable non al roker Hasani. 🙂
lmao comeback thats what im saying!!! Myspace Hasani I like, the one we got I do not like unless he is extremely bipolar lol and in that case well what can we do lol
Indulging in chocolate: $ 1000
Going to the beach:$650
Watching CSI..Warrick Brown: $150
Getting 8 hrs of sleep: $1,500
Stirring up trouble on campus with close friends: $4,000
Blogging: $74.99
Dancing: $600
Listening to music:$500
@ YoungB
I like that you put blogging @ $74.99 that was way to funny
Good God. i’ve never seen Teddy P walk pre wheel chair. WOW.
Sometime I read stuff that makes me want to do stuff like this: http://youtube.com/watch?v=-NZtGz_7WI0
except towards my computer and not an old lady. So those interesting comments take a penny off the dollar.
*some of those comments (on other people’s blogs)
lol…TheComeBackGirl…One of my aunts said Teddy P used to be the man.
wow @ that video
Teddy p was before my time but I know the music. When I looked up that song it was the first video to come up, this is honestly the only version of him i have ever seen. I know he had to be the man back in the day lol.
I’m here to breath. I think I need to take a rest on SBM’s spot for awhile.
lol @ comeback (starts singing)
kick off ya shoes and relax ya feet party on down with the mikki beat just kick it justttttttttt kick ittttttttttttt
im so lame.
thank goodness for a girls spot, soooooooooo what we gonna talk about??
Well can I get the business out of the way first. I am on a personal mission to make sure that Lalah Hathway wins at least 3 Grammy’s next year and Makes billboard top 20 for 50 weeks. So can everybody go and preorder her album. At Stax her label…..
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well I don’t know Mik what we gonna talk about. You don’t have any hot dates?
Oh I meant to tell you I am VERY proud for the money you are saving. I have some financial goals too that I want to do. I’d like to work something on the side so that I can buy another investment property and pay off my car and student loans. And get some free cash coming in. I sold it right before the market crashed. This is probably a good time to buy some cheap stuff under 50k.
if i can get it off amazon for cheap im down 13 bucks or less comeback 13 or less!!! find me it and im so on top of it!!
thank you for being proud of me, i been working really hard its nothin to sneeze at on my salary, by this time next year i will have no debt except for my house, i want to be taking trips like you!!!
hot dates???? uhhhhhh nope what about you?? I never did go out with text message guy, i told him i would reschedule and never did.
http://www.concordmusicgroup.com/albums/STXCD-30308/
can you come up with 98 additional cents….SHE IS WORTH IT MIK. This is the best album of the year. You are apart of history in the making. Come on now.
.98 cents
comeback your pushin me!!!!! thats a whole friggin dollar!!! alright lemmie see what i can do….
Good Lord almighty…if we have our book club (go to SBMs place) i will reimburse you ok?)
can i get a promotional code or somethin!!!
it came to 16.96!!
can i wait til it hits stores? or is this the cheapest?
ok lemmie think on it
Mik do you have paypal. I will pay you 3 bucks its probably for shipping and no its more expensive on amazon.
i might have a paypal account lurking around someplace. just save the 3 bucks for my desert when we all get together. I will collect lol
That Lalah Hathway CD is well worth your money.