I have a question for you as well as a request to give words of wisdom. As of late I have found myself learning how to submit to Gods word, and slowly change my ways and habits that are not of God. Even though for the most part things are going well, I still find myself struggling and as I speak to people that are also in the word. I find most advise being givin to me is (do as i say and not as I do) while most of what is spoken is easily backed up in scripture, i find myself wondering when can I be the exception to the rule like everybody else??? when is it ok for me to date without being told to “wait on the lord”, when it is ok to have relationships with people that are not as spiritual, when can I let my guard down?? there are so many rules that sometimes im frustrated. I keep hearing “oh i did it and even though it worked out for me, still don’t do it”
so my question is, how to you stay true to God while allowing yourself to still be who you are. I want to be blessed but I also believe that God requires me to take action as well. I just don’t want to go down the wrong path, but I don’t want to crash and burn because of all these “rules” either.
I don’t think anyone is an exception to the rule.
I don’t think God sees anything wrong with us dating and “courting” as the old folks like to call it… dating is simply getting to know a man. The issue comes when we add s3x into the dating. I think you should have fun, go out with men, leave the s3x out of it, and wait on God to reveal to you which one you should be with. Once I put HIM in the equation, things turned out so much better for me. I pray for your to find the same, Mik.
As for me, it’s important to have a relationship with a man who has God in him. We need to be on the same level or he even more elevated than I. I think it’s important to be able to worship together… When you are getting ready for church/ bible study, he’s needs to be just as amped about going as you are, not trying to convince you to stay at home.
Nic thanks for your words dear!!! I got much understanding on this, a day AFTER I wrote it. I was super frustrated but then I started reading a chapter in this book I have been reading. The chapter was called “take God with you on dates”, so far its answered all my questions about why its so important to date a man of God, im not even finished with the chapter but its been totally awesome and eye opening. Now im not so upset lol and it makes me want to make sure I seek out a man that has that foundation, and it actually breaks down how to make sure that man has God in his heart without being bamboozled lol, or as our friend at the club said when i was in ATL “BEEHOOVE ME” haha