Everybody Remembers Monica’s song I know because that was the jam back in uh….. 98, I was all of 17 but I remember oh so well…
” I should make a move but I won’t I know you’re probly thinkin something is wrong, knowin if I do then it won’t be right, I don’t get down on the first night”
Yea, but why not?? Outside of the obvious reasons, the guy will think your a slut, hoe, trick, skank, skally wag, what was my point? oh yes! If you have s*x on the first night chances are dude is NOT going to be looking to wife you. Its been proven fact that men like the chase and if we (single ladies) give it up to soon, we are taking ourselves OUT of the wife category right away.
But no sir, I don’t believe that (until someone comes and changes my A.D.D mind) Honestly I believe its the way we act, AFTER we have given up the goodies to soon. I mean I am going to be frank and honest with ya folks cuz thats just what I do. There has been ONE occasion that I have slept with someone two early in the game (Read date 2) that I really liked (after date two) I mean, he was feeling me I was feeling him, we got to kissin, he got to touchin, and BAM! There I was making him breakfast at the crack of dawn the next day.
Honestly after that room romp I wanted to lock his azz up and throw away the key (based on s*x alone). A sista started ACTING as tho she 1 never had good s*x 2 as if he was my man just because we slept together. Dude prolly thought I was crazy (yea i was) and this was a big turn off.
Now I am not going to go around proclaiming just putting on your “tough” face right after doing the do, and clamin up actin something like a pimp but there is a certain level of calmness one must exude after giving away them good done debbie cakes. We are all adults and if you feeling some kinda way and he just does it for you go for it. Us woman are self conscious enough, I am sure sleeping with a man has weighed heaver on YOUR mind MORE than it would ever weigh on a mans mind. They really don’t care! or do they?
I am a strong advocate of “Waiting” until the time is right, getting to know a person, and all that jazz (not really). I am really starting to change my mind about my approach to the situation I mean, If I could have amazing s*x on a first date, manage to not drive myself crazy by wondering if dude thinks I am a hoe and continuing to do me, I might be able JUST MAYBE to pull a ring out of the deal. If you get into the moment and it just happens, don’t go crying talmbout im never gonna get married cuz I slept with dude to soon, just relax (put the skillet away and the eggs back in the frig. Its gonna be ok!
So would you get down on the first night stereo type or Not? Can we be real up in this peace!
Mik, do u want to do it on the first night in order to test the goods????!!!!
I’m not an advocate of indulging. At this point, I’m waiting. PERIOD. S3x changes everything. I start to get emotional and possessive.
I can’t separate s3x from feelings.. if you can, go on with your bad self.
Nicki, not at all love. I was just mentioning the fact that when it does happen mistake or no mistake people get all bent outta shape and start to over analyze situations. I am just saying if it happen, don’t freak out.
Absolutely NOT! And I loved that song. Can’t see myself ever doing this. Like most women it is difficult to seperate my emotions from it, so why even play with fire?
“I was just mentioning the fact that when it does happen mistake or no mistake people get all bent outta shape and start to over analyze situations. I am just saying if it happen, don’t freak out.”
Aw ok.. I will analyze something to DEATH! Trying to stop it though.
Last year (exactly a year ago lol) i started off a ‘relationship’ (which lasted 2 months lol) by havin s$x on the first night. (why am i censoring the word sex?)
I wouldnt do it anymore and would actually encourage people to try getting to know each other on another level instead of startin off by sexin each other. sex does change everything.
LOL at all of yall talkin bout being possesive. when the d/ck is HELLA GOOD, its kinda hard to not be possesive. u just wanna keep that joystick for yourself! shyt, sometimes i dont tell my girls when a dude’s ding-a-ling is good. its not that i dont trust them, i just dont trust anyone lol! my lil secret-d*ck!
*reminiscing*
“its kinda hard to not be possesive. u just wanna keep that joystick for yourself!”
lmao this is exactly correct, so whats a woman to do when u get that good D now or later (Without a commitment and don’t wanna give it up)
and how am I suppose to KNOW the D is good if I don’t test it??? (generally speakin) lol. I think I finally have a plan!!
muaaahaaaahaaa!
shhhh